Communicaton and Expression…

Mercury is the planet of communication, and expression, it is what governs the lower mind, it now has shifted back into protective, nurturing Cancer where it will stay until July 31st.

How will it effect you? 
With Mercury in Cancer our thoughts and words are felt on a much deeper level, when we take in information it also runs more emotional … our instincts are strong. We’re looking for what’s genuine and authentic, as what’s personal and close to home becomes very important. Our thoughts are ran by how we’re feeling, and logic only gets in the way. So it can be a challenge to see all sides to any given situation. We also tend to take what others say much more personal.

(the above was copied from Feel Those Words @ 

http://rubysreadings.wordpress.com/2014/07/13/feel-those-words/   )

 

Communication and expression…what beautiful words. Or, at least, they are to me. The thoughts and images it provokes in me are ones I find comforting. Good conversations, the expressing of a part of one’s soul through art – photography, painting, drawing, sculpting, blogging – ,speaking one’s truth and having another understand completely.

These are only a handful of the images/thoughts that come to me with those two simple, yet complex, words. I believe that there are a multitude of different forms of communication and expression that I am unaware of or that I, perhaps, I have not considered as such. One thing I do know is that communication and expression are two things that are important to me. They are things that help fill my soul in ways nothing else can.

Of course, I’m looking at this from a positive point of view. I am all too aware of the negative side of communication and expression, and, as they are uncomforting at best, soul draining/damaging at worst, it is not the path my mind goes down first. I believe communication should be an equally shared path of give and take, each participant quieting their mind to fully hear the other so that, even if the topic is a less than comfortable one, no one is left feeling unimportant, unheard, or ends up feeling wrong for their thoughts, feelings, or beliefs.

All participants must enter into communication with an open mind and the ability to accept the differences of others. This lays the ground work for free expression (so says me 😉  ). When someone feels comfortable with those they are communicating with, when they know they can fully express their thoughts, feelings, and beliefs knowing they will not be judged cruelly for them, I believe this gives them more confidence to explore their own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, to look closer at them than they would if left inside their own head.

Being open to the thoughts, feelings, and beliefs of another gives both individuals the ability to see the perspective of another, another view of what these thoughts, feelings, and beliefs truly mean to them. This, in turn, can change their perspective on their own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, possibly solidifying them further or causing the individual to see that the way they have looked at their own was incomplete and needed revising.  Well, ok. At least that is how it has worked for me, many times.

But what happens when the comfort and acceptance aren’t there? Or disappear? Well, I believe this causes true communication and expression to not exist or cease. Sure, there are still thoughts, feelings, and beliefs being expressed though they are inhibited or ineffective. In my own experience, this usually causes me to stop talking, stop communicating, shut down, and this is a recipe for disaster for me.

I am experiencing some of this in my own life, lately. There is an individual that I have always felt comfortable sharing my true self, my inner workings, with that has become someone I rarely tell anything to anymore. This is painful in so many ways.

There is a part of me that still believes this person is safe to express myself with, and I unfortunately set myself up for the damages that come from it. Even trying to have a conversation about this or that, non-inner workings stuff, has become undesirable. I always feel as if I have to defend myself, my thoughts, my beliefs, my feelings, and it goes even further than that. I am placed in a position where I have to defend my knowledge to someone that knows I know what I know. It’s heart breaking, defeating, and aggravating, especially since this person is an important part of my life.

What’s worse is that I have no idea how to fix it. Communicating with this person hasn’t been an option. I’ve tried. Maybe I just haven’t been able to express my feelings effectively. Maybe I’m starting to believe that trying to fix the situation with this person just isn’t worth the struggle. I don’t feel heard and I have been blamed for it.

So, there is the negative side. How does someone that values communication as a staple in her world deal with a sudden loss of being able to communicate? I’m open to suggestions. I’m willing to accept that I could be the one failing. I don’t think I am but I’m open to the possibility.

Anyone have any thoughts, about my own situation or about communication and expression in general? I would love to hear them. I love expanding my own perspective.

Thanks and have an incredible day!!!

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About dragonflygypsyusa

Over-thinker with way too much availability to the internet to research whatever might come to mind, amateur photographer, dog enthusiast, learning every day, working on finding my undamaged self.
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