The kindred. There are two types of kindred: the family your were born into and the random souls that come into your life and instantly become family. Though both types are a gift, the random souls are the ones that stick out the most to me. They are the unexpected presence that walks into your life, or you stumble upon, that instantly sees you for who you are and says “Me, too!” Merriam Webster defines kindred two ways:
a : a group of related individuals
: of a similar nature or character : like <a kindred spirit>
: of the same ancestry
I am lucky enough to have both types of kindred in my life. I have had kindred souls pass through my life enough times to cherish their presence. When they move on, as is the case sometimes, they are definitely missed but there are never any lingering feelings of loss because their presence never disrupted any part of my life, of me, in such a way as now the space is vacant. If anything, they brought in healing, a better understanding of myself, an alternate point of view that perhaps I hadn’t stood from before. Each and every kindred soul that has come into my life has been an amazing teacher of lessons of myself. I am better for them and appreciate life more because of them.
It is said that the world is a mirror of ourself; a reflection of our truth, regardless of whether or not we recognize it or want to own it. I believe that a kindred soul is the clearest mirror we can encounter. They show us the good in ourself that we seem unable to see. A kindred soul can also show us the negatives in ourself in a way that doesn’t feel judgemental, providing an avenue for improvement by offering that safe starting point: acceptance. One may start to recognize the parts of themself that they are less than pleased with that may have gone unnoticed before because of the lack of an unbiased, objective mirror with which to safely look at these parts.
The kindred souls that have passed through my life and the ones that are a part of it now have been some of the best instigators of personal growth. Every last one has shown me parts of myself I want to improve on and led by example. They have also shown me the parts of myself I hadn’t seen before that I found lacking, giving me the chance to change these things, and making it easier than it may have been otherwise.
What have the kindred souls in your life provided you? How have they improved your life? Have they helped you change anything about you for the better. Tell me your kindred soul stories…they are some of the best stories I’ve ever heard.